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Episode 135: I'm Not Talking To You! (The Four Horsemen Part 4)

This is our final week in our series on the Gottmans’ Four Horsemen. Our final horseman is stonewalling, which is when one person withdraws and refuses to engage in a conversation. When is stonewalling harmful and when is it helpful? How do we handle conflict when we are flooded with uncomfortable emotions? In this episode we share our experience with stonewalling and how we keep it from hurting our connection. Gotmman's Four Horseman: Stonewalling More about Stonewalling from the Cleveland Clinic To connect with us on social media: Facebook Instagram behindoursmiles.com wowgod.com Email: [email protected]

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Episode 134: You're So Stupid! (The Four Horsemen Part 3)

We are in third week of our series on the Gottman’s Four Horsemen. One of the most dangerous of all the horsemen is contempt, which John Gottman calls the “sulfuric acid for love”. Contempt begins when simmering negative thoughts about our spouse grow into a belief that our spouse is inferior to us and is insignificant. In this episode we share about the dangers of contempt and how it can creep into our marriage. The Gotmman Institute: Contempt Contempt in Marriage: Greg Smalley To connect with us on social media: Facebook Instagram behindoursmiles.com wowgod.com Email: [email protected]

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Episode 133: You're So Defensive! (The Four Horsemen Part 2)

This is our second episode in our series on Gottman’s 4 horseman as we tackle to the topic of defensiveness. When the horse of defensiveness is running wild in our marriage, we go into self-protection mode and take responsibility for our behavior. In this episode we’re sharing our struggle with defensiveness and some of the ways to combat it. Gottmans' Four Horsemen: Defensiveness To connect with us on social media: Facebook Instagram behindoursmiles.com wowgod.com Email: [email protected]