I want to take some time to pray for clarity. These last couple years have been a confusing mess for me as my husband refuses to communicate with me about our marriage. Throughout the seven years we've been together, we have not managed to build the solid foundation necessary for both of us to feel emotionally, spiritually, and physically secure with each other. I know most people have times of struggle in their marriages, but when you and your spouse are polar opposites, there's a whole new layer of obstacles to overcome. My mom always said that marriage is like a garden. You have flowers blooming beautifully and a gardener putting in his/her time and effort. Both husband and wife need to be the flowers sometimes and the gardener at times. It cannot work if one spouse is always the gardener and the other always the flowers. Anyways, I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like my life is on hold as I hoped for him and me to grow together and then one day our family would grow, but my husband only focuses on his wants rather the family that he and I could be. How can a marriage work one-sided? I pray God grants me patience to wait for my husband to turn around and meet me halfway or strength to move on with my life no matter what that means. I also want to thank you all for taking the time to read this and for your prayers. I do love my husband, but I just don't know what to do anymore.